Quickies have their charm — between two meetings, as a sizzling end to a date, or simply because sometimes you just can’t get enough fast enough. But what if the exact opposite could change
Hours of marathon solo play, porn on repeat, and letting go of reality — that’s the promise of Gooning. The term has long since moved beyond meme status: TikTok is full of clips, and niche subreddits
NoFap started as a meme. Now it’s a movement, a mindset, and for some, a mess.
But what the hell is NoFap — and does it actually do anything for your body, your brain, or your
Cuckquean or cuckqueen? Both terms are used — and they describe the same erotic dynamic: a woman or femme-presenting person watches their partner have sex with someone else and finds excitement,
Ever dream of ditching control and being the good girl sitting on command? Or maybe you're the one holding the leash, commanding, teasing, watching your pet obey with wide eyes and a wagging
Porn says: thrust, moan, finish — everyone’s happy.
Reality says: Welcome to the Pleasure Gap, where cis men are hitting the jackpot and everyone else gets leftovers.
Let’s break it
You’re right there. Gasping. Shaking. Begging to come.
And then — nothing.
That’s the magic of the ruined orgasm: when your release is delayed, twisted, or expertly wrecked on
Ever heard of a party where everything goes, but nothing’s required? A place to dance, explore, and maybe live out that one fantasy that’s been on your mind? Welcome to the world of sex-positive
Ghosting sucks — it’s confusing, painful, and can leave you doubting yourself. Here’s why people ghost, how to deal, and how to move on feeling powerful, whether it’s a date, a friend, or even a job.
Okay, so you’ve done the whole dinner-and-a-movie thing. Maybe more than once. Maybe more times than you want to admit. It’s fine. But what if your next date actually made your heart race? We’re
A shared sense of humor does more than spark laughter — it strengthens emotional bonds, eases stress, and keeps love feeling fresh. Whether it’s a well-timed joke that diffuses tension or a playful
A playful approach to dating can strengthen connection, ease tension, and make everyday moments more enjoyable. From small surprises to lighthearted habits, here’s how to keep things fun without
From unexpected guests to spaghetti slip-ups, these first date stories are proof that romance and ridiculousness often go hand in hand. Buckle up for some of the funniest (and strangest) first
Getting cheated in a relationship is the worst feeling ever. No man wants her girl to ditch him for someone else. It leaves you heartbroken and in pain. What’s even more terrible is to figure out if
Trying to parse that poly jargon? Communities often have a need for a vocabulary of their own. When you’re trying to argue for mainstream acceptance of something that not many people know
Back when I was eighteen and a recovering bulimic, Kate Harding changed my life forever. Until I discovered the truly incredible (and now late lamented) blog Shapely Prose it had never really
When me and my boyfriend decided that “monogamish” was an adjective better suited for us than “monogamous,” we started seeing the world differently. Each outing was an opportunity to meet
When my husband and I first went public about our polyamory/open marriage, we had no idea the amount of assumptions that would be made about our marriage. Some of them we laughed at, thinking people
Have you ever been judged for dating older men? When I was little I heard some family members joke about our neighbor being a sugar daddy. At the time I thought they were talking about the
Two very close friends of mine have been in a monogamous relationship with each other for many years, but one of them has a long-standing habit of forming very
We and our media often talk about the “one” - our “one true love,” the person we’re fated to be with for the rest of our lives. We have this idea that “true” love
On a crowded train, you don't get to choose who you sit across from. In my case, my neighbor across the aisle was a soldier on his way to make a court appearance
Minor change here at Dear Abi: we’ve decided to switch to answering one question per column, to enable me to give your questions longer and more detailed answers. As always, you can ask
Years ago, when my decade long marriage opened up, it wasn’t all smooth sailing. The first time I went on a date with another man my husband had a very strong
Dear Abi,
I’ve been dating someone as their secondary partner for six months now. It’s going well, but the more time passes the more I realise that I want