Curious about MMF threeways? POPCORN's sex columnist Molly Moore gives her best advice to a guy whose girlfriend wants a MMF threesome. Plus, understanding MMF vs MFM. Because, yep, there is a difference.
Dear Molly,
I recently discovered that my girlfriend loves watching porn involving two men. Her favorite kind seems to be a MMF threesome scenario with two men and one woman all together. But I was shocked to see the men were making out with each other too. I didn't tell her that this bothered me and so she's continued to show me more of this type of MMF threesome porn.
Is it normal that she's turned on by watching threesomes with two guys doing stuff together? Is she hinting that she'd like to have a threesome with me and another guy? And does she wants me to get it on with another guy? When I first watched some of these vids it made me uncomfortable, but I've since watched more MMF threesome clips and realise I do find some of them hot. Still, I find myself wondering if all this is normal or not?
Curious Carl
Dear Curious Carl,
Firstly, let me start with the fact that there's no such thing as 'normal'. Human sexuality is complex and diverse. The things that excite us are widespread and varied. Anyone who tells you any different is wrong! Being attracted to someone of the same sex, or getting turned on by watching two people of the same sex, is super common.
As to your dilemma. It's hard to say for sure what your girlfriend is hoping for in sharing these MMF threesome videos with you. She's trying to let you into her mind and show you something she finds erotic and sexy. This is brilliant as it gives you both an opportunity to explore fantasies together.
Repressing her sexual desires could lead to feelings of resentment that could result in a relationship ending. These fantasies might be something she would like to explore more with another person. Or perhaps she's just happy keeping it a fantasy. It will only become clear when you talk to her about it more.
MMF Threesomes: Talk it Through
My advice is to do that and do it soon. You seem to have managed to overcome your initial reaction fairly easy. You've even started to discover that you're actually turned on by the things your girlfriend is sharing with you. You haven't t allowed your initial reaction to cut you off from this.
Threeway Fun: Up For an MMF Threesome?
As a result, you've maybe even discovered something new about yourself. This is awesome and something I'd encourage you to capitalize on with your partner. It's time to be open with her and talk it all through. Tell her that you were not sure in the beginning, but now you're enjoying some of the MMF threeway clips she's been sharing.
Share Fantasies and Desires
Encourage your girlfriend to share more about her desires and try to create an environment that makes her feel comfortable to do this. You should also consider sharing something in return. Maybe you have a fetish, an unfulfilled fantasy, or your own certain type of porn that really gets you off when you're masturbating. There's no reason why you can't return the favor, as then you can explore each other's fantasies.
MMF vs MFM: What's the Diff?
It's definitely possible that your girlfriend wants to try a MMF threesome. Just to be clear, a MMF threesome is one where the two men are either bisexual or open to direct sexual contact between themselves. That's why the two 'M's' are placed next to each other. This seems to be where you have most doubts.
“A MMF threesome is one where the two men are either bisexual or open to direct sexual contact between themselves.”
On the other hand, MFM threesomes indicates a threeway where the men are not bi-sexual and do not engage in sexual contact directly. That's why the 'F' is between the two 'M's. Whatever you decide, if you do set up a threesome with your girlfriend, it's essential to communicate beforehand with the other person joining. Clarify what level of physical contact you're comfortable with. This way no one ends up getting into something that was not anticipated.
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Interestingly, your girlfriend is definitely not alone when it comes to fantasizing about MMF threesomes. A 2018 study from Birmingham City University in the UK found that, in threesomes involving two men and one female, women find it more pleasurable when the men also engage sexually with each other. What's more, the study found that the stigma around MMF threesomes is diminishing, partly due to attitudes towards sexuality and homosexuality changing.
MFM vs MMF Threesomes: There's a Big Difference
Keep Exploring the MMF Threesome Fantasy
OK, so having an MFM or MMF threesome right now might not be the safest place to start. It might turn out that you and your girlfriend are more comfortable keeping this as a fantasy; something you can enjoy together without turning it into a real-life experience. But you will only discover this if you talk with your girlfriend more.
Truth is, getting better at sharing your mutual desires with one another will ensure you have a much more exciting and fulfilling sex life, one where both of you are fully satisfied.
Molly x
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