There’s also that confidence too, but in a self assured way that builds and nurtures rather than having to bark out commands and orders, true Dominance can be obtained and if far more powerful when used in a clam, controlled manner.

Some investing comments, for me personally traits I value and look for are empathy to understand what you’re sub wants as a two way relationship , nurturing kindness to build up your sub rather than looking to break them, patience to work with your sub as a two way dynamic on what you both require Read more… and want both physically, emotionally and mentally and this works in with good communication obviously.

Chastity for me is such a turn on physically in terms of being restrained and also mentally in that I’m handing over control and the reminder and feeling of being caged is such a turn on mentally knowing that I’ve committed to my Domme and showing subservience to her and knowing it pleases her is Read more… excites me too, and have check-in with each other whether that be me asking I’m I fine to take it off for a particular reason and then being asked have I put it back on afterwards and checking in so see if I’m ok feel exciting and comforting while helping to build that connection..sometimes the build up, anticipation, denial and teasing along with the mind games are just as good if not a better sometimes than physical orgasms and can certainly increase the pleasure of orgasms physically when it comes to it..pardon the pun!

Taking small steps is important, so plenty of research and reading, talk to people, go to munches and events as they sometimes have great teaching sessions or talks. Never just listen to one person and believe that’s how it’s done as they could be teaching you the wrong way and with anything in Read more… life learning form many people in various ways helps. It’s important to have boundaries, but curiosity is natural once you learn more as with everything in life. I tend to have my happy go to selection of things and then my curious things and then my hard limits. Sometimes these can change with time and experience in both ways as like and don’t like.bit like our taste buds change with age. Certain things that were on my curious list are now wow never expected that, but in a good way.