Guide to Anal Sex | Basics to the Extremes

“Up the bum, no babies!” That’s just one reason to get into anal sex. The other is that it can give both men and women some of the best orgasms of their lives. Popcorn.dating asked Alex Hopkins to give you a full-on guide to anal sex.

Basics for Beginners

Relax to Receive

Being in the right frame of mind is crucial for your enjoyment of any anal acrobatics – from mild to extreme. If it’s your first time – and even if it isn’t – you may be nervous. This is normal. In the build-up to the main act, concentrate on becoming as relaxed as possible. Alle***e all tension from your body with a thorough, unrushed body massage. Treat yourself to some special body oils – and let your partner go to work on you. It’s the perfect way to build that sexual tension. You may also choose to take a luxurious soak in the tub. Choose the right scent to calm your mind – lavender and chamomile are great for this – and your body will soon follow suit.
 

Preparation before Penetration

Think of your sphincter as any other muscle. Would you jump straight into the 30-kilo dumbbells down the gym without the appropriate warm-up beforehand? Perish the thought. The sight of his pulsating pork sword may well be overwhelming you with desire, but plunging in at the deep end is not to be advised. Start off with some gentle probing: plenty of lube and judicious use of both your own and your partner’s fingers. Take note of every sensation and adjust the controls accordingly! Spice things up with a range of anal toys, such as dildos and butt plugs – again, starting slow and carefully. And then there’s the joy of rimming: using your tongue to stimulate that rosebud. Before long, your entrance will be twitching with relish and braced for that back-door bonanza.


Let your partner go to work on you...
 

Down with Douching

One of the main anxieties people have about anal is whether they’re clean. The sudden emergence of chocolate dingleberries at a crucial moment can certainly be most disconcerting and embarrassing – and yet it’s nothing to feel ashamed of. Shit, literally, does happen. However, if you’re overly worried, then steps can be put in place to avoid the problem: namely, douching. There is a range of options out there, so take the time to decide which might be right for you. 
 

Slow and Slippery

Remember, you’re not a sprinter, you’re a marathon runner – and, let’s face it, everyone prefers a sex marathon to a wham bam, thank you, ma’am. So slowly and delicately does it – especially as he enters you. Remember that his bell end is the thickest part, so once that’s safely at home base, it just gets easier – and hotter.

Lubrication is everything! If you need more lube, don’t be afraid to ask. Keep things slippery and sensual. Find the pace and position that works best for you. Control is vital. Just because you’re the receiver doesn’t mean you’re surrendering control. Quite the opposite, in fact: put yourself in the driving seat. If it’s your first time, lay him on his back and gradually manoeuvre yourself on to his joystick. Get used to it, temper his thrusting, and before long you’ll be riding him like a bucking bronco. Once you’ve got that off pat, experiment with a whole range of positions – just make sure you’re comfortable, and then you can really let yourself go.
 

Entering the Extremities

Be warned: anal sex is addictive! Once you’ve crossed that threshold many are tempted to explore further – some stopping short of nothing less than traffic cones to get their kicks.
 

Anal Beads

For use on him as well as her! They’re shaped like spheres, vary in size, and one-by-one, are slid into your love tunnel ready for the trusted sphincter to do its work and contract around each bead. The promise of intense and unique pleasure follows as the beads are slowly, tantalisingly removed.
 

From fingers to Fists

You can’t get much more intimate than fisting. Start with the fingers and move on upwards… but easy does it – very easy: we’re talking millimetres at a time here. The colon’s proximity to the intestine and the fact that its lined with millions of tiny capillaries means that there’s always a risk of bleeding and infection, so infinite care must be taken at all times. Start with the hand and explore. Locate that sphincter and let the probing commence. Start proceedings with long fingering and go from there – but respect, trust and communication are vital. Safety must come first – but once you’re into your stride and delicately tracing every turn with your hand, the pleasure can be otherworldly. 
 

Torturous Toys

Dildos come in all shapes and sizes – as do all other anal toys. Some guys and girls can - quite literally – take a traffic cone or at least an inanimate object of a comparable size. As with fisting, near-expert knowledge of anatomy is required to ensure safety. Once you get into it, anal sex can be an every-challenging assault course, reaping untold dividends of depravity and desire.