First Times: A Guide to Anal Sex

This month it's all about First Times. So, if you've never had anal sex and are curious about it, Popcorn.dating gives you the lowdown on how to do it well - and demystify some of the myths in the process. Just don't forget the lube...

Isn't anal sex just for gay guys?

Absolutely not! Anyone with a butt hole can partake in some bum fun, no matter your gender or how you identify.  All you need to do is open your mind (and your ass). The anus is a highly sensitive piece of equipment, and you'll be surprised just how erotic it feels.  

How can I convince my partner to try anal sex?

We wouldn't recommend pressuring your partner to try anal; both partners must be up for it. Reservations and fears should be taken seriously, and make sure you communicate with your sexual partner. It's not for everyone, however, what's most important is to start slow. 

How can I prepare myself?

Preparation isn't complicated. All you need to do is empty your bowels, take a shower and make sure your ass is as clean as possible. To ensure you're totally clean inside, try an enema. If you don't have a kit lying around, one quick way is to remove the shower head, squat, press the hose up against your hole and squirt lukewarm water up your ass. Then flush out. Important: make sure that you don't squirt too much water into your rectum (only the last 10-20cm of your anal passage). 

How can I relax my sphincter?

Start slow and take your time. For novices, penetration shouldn't be rushed. A bit of exploration will help to relax. Start first with your fingers, use some lube to help with the sensation, and have a play around! You're in the driving seat, so you decide how far you go. You can also try using sex toys like anal plugs or love balls. 


Sex toys like anal plugs and love balls can help relax the sphincter.

What is the best position for anal sex?

There is no 'best' position. It's learning by doing. For beginners, doggy style or cowgirl position could be good ideas. The receiving partner has total control over the situation and can regulate the tempo and the intensity of action.  Also, the tip of the cock is the widest part, so once you're past that, it'll feel better.  If you feel pain though, stop (unless you're into that...)

Do I need lube?

Definitely! Spit and water-based lubes aren't recommended as your anal passage doesn't have any oil glands, and it can absorb water very quick. It's better to use a silicon-based lube and one that's thicker and suitable for anal, like KY.  It'll make your anal adventures much easier and a lot more fun!

Should I use a condom?

Not everyone uses them, but we recommend it.  Why? Well, even the cleanest ass has bacteria that could infect the man’s urethra with a UTI (Urinary Tract Infection).  

Can a woman give anal, too?

For sure! Ever heard about strap-ons? Plus the male G-spot is, funnily enough, up his ass.  

Why do some guys cum much faster with anal sex?

Easy: anal sex is much tighter than vaginal sex - it's a totally new experience for men and women.

Does cock size matter?

There's no simple answer to that. It always depends on the size of ass and the sexual position. Lots of people enjoy anal regardless of cock size. But don’t worry, the smallest dick can also be the perfect anal penetrator. 

And finally...

For the guys, if you fancy yourself as a stud ass fucker, try being a bottom (receiving it) at least once. It'll help you understand the sensation and find the best technique. And who knows, you might enjoy it!